Marriage (2017) and fatherhood (2021) showed me the profound meaning and depths of being a man. This took me to explore the role of man and husband, and the importance of assistance and healing on individuals and the collective.
All these practices and experiences merged the idea and concept of integrative coaching for men. The art of listening, reflecting as mirror, support and assistance in a compassionate way as man to man. Some of the intentions of this work is for trauma resolution, to access old memories and experiences, work on toxic patterns/addictions and shift them, find emotional and psychological support and spiritual transformation from man’s perspective.
It is my belief that each experience and process happens for a specific development to help us connect to our deeper truths and know who we really are. Each process comes with a message it is delivering through the lessons it puts us through. However, if we do not allow the time and space for us to integrate these processes, we can get burnt out very quickly, and we will find ourselves in a state of imbalance on all levels: body, mind, spirit and soul. Therefore, it is critical to integrate the processes we have gone through, and continue to go through.
Through integrative coaching, we connect with where the process is working in our bodies, the messages and healing it is bringing to us, and the lessons we can learn from the process as man. Without doing this, the process can get stuck in our bodies, which can then manifest in unhealthy ways, blocking us from being in contact with who we truly are. Many processes are stuck inside of us from childhood because we did not have the safe space to integrate these processes with those around us.
My intention of these sessions is to assist men/fathers in the process of self-observation, healing, integration and transformation. Facilitating and reflecting perspectives, practices, insights and possibilities of self-healing and self-actualization based on my studies in shamanism, indigenous spirituality, Gabor Maté’s Compassionate Inquiry a psychotherapy approach, conscious parenting and healing arts.
We are living in a time of profound transformation, leading many men and fathers into an awakening and healing journey, allowing us access to a higher and deeper state of awareness; a new reality of being and doing. Many of us, as men and fathers, we are answering our soul’s calling for a shift in our lives. A journey to question the paradigm we live in many levels. Body awareness, spiritual beliefs and mental structures are deprogramming and evolving so fast. This process could be very hard for many men/fathers. We know self-work needs reflection and mirroring from other perspectives to create the synergy to achieve self observation and take responsibility, the ability to respond to the challenges and opportunities.
Feeling depressed, stressed, judged, confused and lonely are part of the healing process towards awakening. When we get to this vulnerable point, embracing our pain, we are reaching the opportunity to transform and heal. These sessions are about being a compassionate mirror and reflecting some perspectives in the healing process and self-actualization. This is a practice of witnessing the self, the other and the environment as one unified whole. It is about opening into heartfelt, compassionate expression and acceptance. Bringing attention, intention, empowerment and authentic speaking into the center of men’s soul. This give us the opportunity to shift patterns and belief systems that no longer serve us, opening us into a meaningful healing process. It does not involve the treatment of any specific conditions, nor is there any attempt to diagnose, cure or fix anything. I do not work within the current psychotherapeutic or professional models. Instead, the individual resources are supported so we can develop our own compassionate inner guidance and self-awareness along the healing journey.